3 Recommended books about men and women

Three recommended books about men and women are 'Dangerous men and adventurous women' edited by Jaynes Ann Krentz, 'Ordinary women extraordinary sex' by Dr Sandra Scantling and Sue Browder and 'Sperm wars' by Robin Baker.

The books individually approach the subject from three different perspectives: romantic fiction, good sex from a female perspective, and biology.

Neither consider the subject from a moral perspective - what they give is a indication of some of the underlying divers.

Dangerous men and adventurous women is a collection of essays by best selling romance novelists about their craft. Depending on where you get your information between 25-50% of all books sold are romantic fiction.

The key aspects of a successful romantic novel seem to be:

• They have a happy ending - resolving often complex and paradoxical issues
• The hero is some version of a "mean, moody, magnificent creature with a curling lip and a mocking eye and an arrogant air of self assurance" - (well until he meets the heroine)
• The heroine always conquers the hero - not vice versa
• The writer's ability to lead the imagination and emotions and create a fantasy that resonates with the reader is more important than plot and or grammar.

Ordinary women extraordinary sex is about women who experience great sex. It's about unlocking inhibitions and finding one own unique keys to pleasure. It isn't about a better position, a better body or a better partner - in-fact the importance of the man's role is not as important as some might think. (other than she needs to be able to trust him.)

It is about focus and mindset:

• Learning to quiet the mind
• Staying connected to what you love - letting the moment lead you
• Trusting your partner and yourself
• Finding your own true voice among the "shoulds"
• Suspending certainty and cultivating a beginner's mind
• Enhancing your enjoyment of senses, images and fantasies

The thrust of Sperm Wars is that evolution has programmed men to conquer and monopolise women while women, without even knowing they are doing it, seek the best genetic input on offer from available sexual partners.

Men's drive is to produce the largest number of healthy children while women drive is to be very selective and choose the best genes AND the best male to protect any offspring - ideally but not necessarily the same male.

The interesting idea is that, regardless of what we think, these concepts are hardwired into or bodies at a physical level and while we always have the option of saying no - there is often a disconnect between what we think we're doing and how our bodies are acting. And it's often our bodies that drive our behaviour.

Some ideas proposed:

• Less than 1% of a man's sperm can fertilise anything, the rest is there to hinder other men's sperm
• Human females naturally hide their fertility (even from themselves) - giving her more control over when and by whom she conceives
• From a biological point of view what's right for one partner is often not the best for the other
• There is more differences between different women than different men. Men should not assume that one women is like another.

Michael

PPI Business NLP

Review of Dave Riker's Speed seduction language and conversation course

Review of Dave Riker's 11 cd and workbook - Speed seduction, language and conversation course

(Please note I've no connection with Dave - if you're interested you can find out more from www.daveriker.com and www.straightforward.inc )

In brief this an excellent course if you're interested in improving your conversation, influencing, hypnosis, poetic and / or seduction skills.

My only caution is that while you'll pick up useful tips in a casual listen (which in itself will take 10 hours or so) you'll get a lot more benefit if you do all the exercises and listen several times - which could add up to an investment of several weeks.

On the other hand its one of the best collections of: speaking tips, language tools, language structures and techniques, conversation management, conversation topics and patterns that I've come across brought together in one place.

I know that this stuff works - however I can imagine anyone who hasn't had any exposure to this sort of material give up in disbelief before getting value from it. So if you're thinking of buying it only do so after making the commitment that you're going to use it!

Below is very short extract of some of the material covered:

Examples and uses of 'trance words' - which tend to immediately lead the listener into another state: eg Suddenly, find yourself, imagine, suppose, convince yourself etc

Examples of 'weasel phrases' ( There must be a better description!) - which are phrases that lead the imagination and work well before an embedded command: eg Have you ever, what's it like when you, as you etc

Examples of linking (An anchoring technique) - which enables
you to link good feelings and emotions to yourself: eg Now with me, in me, these, this belief, these feelings etc. A number of anchoring techniques are included.

Examples of listing - listing can be used to pace experience, give reasons to support your views. It can be useful to 'hide' more adventurous options within a list and to put your prefer ed suggestion at the end.

Examples of using 'more the more' (Which I really like) - which enables you to more easily lead someone through a series of steps and amplify the result.

Examples of using parts. One example of which is the hallucination that if someone is not behaving in a way that you think is useful - assume that the person has a part that supports your point of view - and gain support of that part. (With my NLP hat on please remember to integrate when you've finished!)

Examples of universal wants - which enables you to guess something the person may want: eg confidence, security, control etc

Examples of how to gently challenge - challenges are often far more important than compliments: eg you seem, you seem as if, are you able to, you may, maybe you can etc. lots of other examples of challenges are included.

Examples of seduction orientated topics of conversation eg surrendering to feelings, getting excited, trusting your judgement, indulgence, good decisions.

If you're interested in this sort of material you'll really like the course.

Any questions give me a call,

Michael
PPI Business NLP
01908 506563


See also:
Key attraction and seduction posts,

Create Her - Be clear about what you want!

Lance Mock sent me a copy of his eBook 'Create Her' which is about being clear about what you want in a partner. Well worth a read!

http://www.ppimk.com/downloads/Createher.pdf

Michael
01908 506563