Richard La Ruina (Aka Gambler) podcast transcript

Discussion between NLP trainer Michael Beale and Seduction trainer Richard La Ruina. January 2008.


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Michael : I'm really pleased that we have Richard with us this afternoon, who's written 'The Natural Art of Seduction' and runs live training sessions in London .

Richard : Thank you for inviting me.

Michael : Can you kick off by giving our listeners a bit of an introduction to yourself, a little bit about your background and what you do at the moment?

Richard : Sure, my name is Richard La Ruina and I'm currently a fulltime trainer, I train men in how to be better with women, and we do this in a different way to life coaches and other people, we actually train guys in practical, usable techniques.

We demonstrate for them on women and we actually take them out and hone their skills until they're able to do the things that they come to be able to learn - for example getting dates, getting numbers, being more attractive, we'll give them a guide to fashion, we'll work on them in every way.

And as well as doing that I run the business, I've just written a book the book that you're talking about 'The Natural Art of Seduction'. My background is that I was actually very bad with women myself, and I had to learn all of this stuff from scratch. I was someone that was bad socially, I was painfully shy, I was an introvert, and I was kind of stuck in a rut - I didn't have the ability to make friends, and I didn't have the ability to socialise, and of course I didn't have the ability to meet women, get them attracted to me, get dates, to be interesting on dates, and all these things that are very important in having a happy love life.

Michael : And how did you actually get into the seduction business? You obviously went through some transformation.

Richard : I think a lot of guys have heard of Ross Jefferies, and I did actually see his materials a while back, he does NLP for seduction basically - and I was studying NLP, the old Bandler and Grinder books and those sorts of things, but I didn't actually take it seriously, that wasn't the turning point for me.

The turning point for me when I met an American seduction-guru by chance in Leister Square, and he recommended some books and websites, and that started my journey. At first it was just six months of just staying in my house and reading books and watching videos and listening to audio, and after that it was applying that in the real world in London.

Michael : Moving on from that, in your book you mention three characters, Mr Sociable, Mr Comfort and Mr Seducer, can you just talk a little bit about them and particularly the sequence that they could be used in?

Richard : Sure - the basic idea is based on the type of customer I get and just the problems that I normally encounter when I'm teaching someone. These are normally guys that are interesting, they're nice guys that would make a good boyfriend, and they're unable to demonstrate that to a girl in the first few minutes - they start the conversation in a boring way, they ask lots of boring questions, and they're very low energy - and it makes them very hard to get started, to get the good first impression.

So the idea is, that they're good when they're in a one-on-one situation, when they're comfortable. And that's actually later on in an interaction with a stranger, that's maybe half an hour in the middle of it, so what they need to do is they need to develop these extrovert skills, these qualities of the sociable person, and this comes in the first character which is this fun, sociable guy.

His job is to be more interesting than what they are doing currently. So if they're talking to someone that's bored by a tube station waiting for someone, it's going to be quite easy to be more interesting than that. However, if you're talking to some girls that have been drinking, they're in a big group, they're in a loud environment, it's going to be tougher.

So the idea is to give them a toolkit so that they can adjust how interesting they are, how high their energy levels are, so that they have the ability to start a conversation and get to the point where people are engaged with them and do that consistently in all different environments. So that's the job of the fun, sociable guy.

The second character is Mr Comfort, and his job is to connect, to find reasons to see that person again, to get over this surface level banter that we have with our hair dresser, and with our aunt that we see every six months - and get down to really what makes that person tick, their motivation, their character traits, their emotions, these things.

The third character is The Seducer, because I found a lot of men were having the problem of making friends with a woman that they really wanted as a girlfriend, and it was happening because they were missing that point where they needed to escalate things and needed to put in some sexual tension, and to go for the kiss, so they also need to learn the characteristics of someone who is very seductive.

And have the ability to inject sexual tension into a situation, so that a woman that's sitting there thinking 'this guys interesting' starts thinking, 'actually I'd like to kiss this guy.' 'Is he single?' 'Could he maybe be my boyfriend?'.So the three characters are a way of applying a structure to a woman that you've just met, with the aim of progressing through the stages of being two strangers, of being in a conversation, and then eventually taking things to the point where you could see them as a romantic partner, and go for the kiss. And this kind of thing.

Michael : And is the sequence important?

Richard : The sequence is always the same in 95% of cases. The only cases where it wouldn't be the same are where you already know the person or maybe when you're in a very noisy nightclub.

Michael : And how would it be different if you knew the person? and how it be different if you were in a noisy nightclub?

Richard : If you already know a person, you don't generally have to worry about the first two stages, you're already in a situation where they won't reject you if you start talking to them, and they know something about you so there's not too much work to be done in terms of building trust and comfort - there might even be quite a bit of connection.

Generally the only elements that would be missing are them seeing you as a potential mate, and making them feel attracted to you. Kind of bridging that gap between friend and boyfriend.

In the nightclub it's different because you can't do so much verbally, so you can't really have this in-depth chat, and you can be a lot more sexual, so you might find that you could meet a girl and very quickly be kissing her, and then you could go off and have a chat afterwards, and fill in the blanks in the getting-to-know-her part.

Michael : I appreciate that I'm asking you for a huge generalisation because every body's different, but what generally are the sorts of characteristics that make men attractive to women?

Richard : It's not that much of a generalisation, I think there are character types that are almost universally attractive. Women always say 'confidence' and the worst advice to men is to 'just be confident' because you really don't have to do that, but if you think about it - what makes up confidence? I think that it's a sense of comfort with your environment, and with conversation, so if a guy approaches a woman and is sweating and nervous and uncomfortable, it's going to be hard for her to relax and it's going to be hard for her to find him attractive.

If he's completely comfortable in that environment, completely comfortable talking to strangers, completely comfortable talking to her, that's one attractive quality that comes with confidence.

So are things like certainty, in what you say and a strong reality, so someone that meet a girl, and she says 'oh I like sushi, do you like it?' and the guy goes '...yeah, yeah I do...' he doesn't, he's just saying - he wants to agree with her, he's saying 'me too'.

Someone who seeks rapport when it's not really there, someone that would bend and change, and shift his viewpoint, because he wants her to approve of him - someone who is unsure about themself so needs to get this approval off of other people, to get this connection with other people, is not very attractive.

A man that has a sense of purpose in life, has something that he's doing, other than wanting her - so he's into his business, he's very into his person development, whatever it might be, if there's something that's a passion - it's very attractive to meet someone that has passions and interests and doesn't just give all of that up once they meet someone that they become romantically involved in.

I think that women want someone who is slightly unattainable. They never 100% have them. And the guy is obviously attractive to other women. And she's not there whenever she wants him.

So he does do other things, he does go to classes. And in the early stages of a relationship he's not available for dates every day of the week, he's not calling her every day, he's not sending her flowers every Tuesday. There's a bit of unpredictability and unattainableness, because I think men generally say 'you're an attractive women, I'm here, I want you here anytime, just let me know' and women are the ones that are slightly hard to pin down, that are busy doing things, that don't give up their activities and interests to go on a date, but a man will dump all his trends, all his plans, if an attractive woman wants to go on a date with him.

So you can look at these principles as pretty much universal, and they come from a wider umbrella of confidence and how does a confident, successful man behave? And the useful thing is that you can apply them, almost as techniques while you build the confidence.

Michael : So you're saying actually, playing with this stuff or exploring this stuff, is actually a means in itself of developing those traits.

Richard : Of course yeah. Because if you know the correct body language traits, for example, you will be in the club and you will look more attractive. Because you'll have the right body language you'll get better reactions - you getting those good reactions will make you feel better - you knowing that you don't look uncomfortable or unconfident anymore will make you feel better.

When you have some, even silly chat up lines, and you go and use them in bars and in the streets, that's going to give you confidence because you get not-so bad response. So all along the process, as long as you're seeing improvement and learning things, and applying it, you should naturally build your confidence.

I think I've changed from someone who was scared of everything, scared of standing up in class, scared of meeting friends of friends - I'd blush, I'd shake, and I'd just avoid any sort of conversation. Now I embrace it, I'm happy to go on live TV, I'm happy to speak in front of five hundred people. Nothing really phases me, and that's happened gradually, just getting success, just getting the technique, trying it, and getting the results, and there was a snowball effect.

Michael : Now what you're doing follows on from The Game and Mystery, and other people - what do you think you're doing that's different? Is is the same as they've been doing, or have you added your own thing to it?

Richard : It's only the same in the very broad sense that it's seduction. And it's teaching guys how to be better with women.

I'd say that the main thing that distinguishes us is that we're taking a wider approach - we don't want the demand to just be more attractive in just those five minutes, we don't want to give into the lies and the tricks that work for a few hours, we see that as a road to unhappiness.

We want to teach the natural skills, the ones that he can use at work, with friends, to just become generally more sociable, more popular and become a better person, rather than fake it with routines and gimmicks and magic tricks.We thinks they're very shallow - we think that there's a much better way to do things, and that if you keep your approach flexible, and you adjust it based on the woman that you're talking to - rather than treating all women the same, and in a lot of cases misleading them, or tricking them for the short-term game.

Michael : A question that I find curious - what do you think it is in simple terms that is the difference between a man seducing a woman and a woman seducing a man?

Richard : Well, the big difference that men and women have is that the man is the one that has to approach, he has to ask to spend time with the woman, to be able to get her number, to be able to go on a date, he has to make the move for the kiss - he basically has to lead and ask questions all the way through the interaction - and the woman's job is simply to let it happen or to block it.

Michael : If you were going to teach a woman to attract a man, would you be teaching them similar things or would you be teaching her different things?

Richard : I would teach them very different things, I would maybe teach them on body language, a fashion and style and the types of things that would get men come up and talk to them more.

However I would assume that if they went and stood in a bar they would have guys come up and talk to them because that's the general situation that women are in, and I think that they're job once men come up and talk to them is quite limited because the guy's already decided that he finds her attractive sexually, if he's come to chat them up.

So their job in that situation is to decided whether that man is any good or not.

So he's going to be presenting his best self, it might be true, it might not be. So she needs a way to separate the wheat from the chaff when approached by all these guys.

A lot of women make the mistake of approaching the wrong man over and over again, and one of the reasons its so hard to tell the difference between the man with the fake smile and all the great things, and the guy that's just making it up.

The other thing is, when they've found the guy that they want, how do they keep him? That's an issue for women as well, so they have this girl that they really like, but the man has gone from seeing her as this challenge, this beauty, that he wants to get into a relationship with, and now she' s become an ordinary woman, and now she's that and eyes go roaming and he might go elsewhere.

Michael : Before we come to the end of this conversation, and before I ask you if there's anything that you'd like to plug , or give your contact details - is there anything else that you'd like to say in addition, or in summary about seduction that you think is important that maybe we haven't covered?

Richard : It's a massive area, it's always hard when I have to cut things down.

One take away that I'd give is no matter your situation at the moment, whatever your level, whatever mistakes you've made, whatever bad things have happened to you, or even good things - you can always be better, this is now an area rich knowledge, lots of resources, and a few experts that can help you along the way, so if you're willing to dedicate the time and the effort, you can become very, very good, and these skills translate themselves very well outside the area of seduction.

I'm very good in meetings or job interviews, whatever the situation that involves social interaction, so there's wide, far-reaching benefits, so there's definitely something you can handle.

Michael : Is there anything you'd like to plug, and could you leave us your contact details?

Richard : Sure thing. The easiest way to check out the kind of stuff I teach is to check out the book, 'The Natural Art of Seduction' which is in Amazon and in bookshops everywhere, the other thing you should do is check out my website which is www.puatraining.com which has free video, audio, lots of free stuff and also a way for you to get in touch with me.

Michael : Excellent, thank you very much Richard.

Richard : Thank you.

Attraction and seduction books

Selection of my favorite attraction and seduction books:

For men and mainly about women,

The Game is a sort of biography of the key players in the 'Seduction Industry'. I found it equally sad, honest, useful and extrememly interesting. One on my sons made the comment "It's as much about male bonding as seduction." Hilarious glossary of terms at the end.




Mystery is one of the main 'players' in the Game above. The 'Mystery Method' summarises his suggested approaches. One of his predaicates is that men are naturally attracted to women with high 'replication' value and women are attracted to men with a high 'survivor' value. Well worth a read. Recommended.



Ross Jeffries is often considered the original 'speed seducer' and is also featured in the 'The Game'. I like Ross' stuff although this book is not up to his DVD's How to get the women..




Richard La Ruina's The Natural Art of Seduction is a sort of development from 'The Game' and 'Mystery Method' and builds on sussessful formula and content of both books. Most of the stories in the book take place in the UK. Recommended.





'The Cube' is simply a fun, short imagination game which can capture the imagination...



'Sperm Wars' has been described as the 'most entertaining' science book of its year. Quoting the back cover "Evolution has programmed men to conquor and monopololise women while women, without knowing they are doing it seek the best genetic input available..."




"Fullfilment isn't a matter of a better position, a better body, or a better partner - it's about unlocking inhibitions and finding one's unique keys to pleasure".

Ordinary Women, Extraordinary Sex is a study of the charachteristics of women who enjoy hightened pleasure during sex.



Its alledged that men read and watch pornography while women are attracted to reading romance novels. A huge number of them infact (25% of all books sold?). Why are all the hero's mean, moody and magnificant? And bad in some way.......

(Although this ties in with Mystery's idea that women are naturally attracted to men with high 'suirvival' skills)

The book explores and explodes some myths about romance novels.



The 'Red Queen' is about the how's and why's of the evolutionary struggle between men and women and has recommendations from Richard Dawkins and the Wall Street Journal.

Strong stuff.



Has the male 'human mind' evolved like the 'peacocks tail' and become attractive to women? 'The Mating Mind' explores some human behaviour and advocates that some of our behaviour is actually about displaying our attractiveness to mates.....




Break, Blow, Burn - Camille Paglia explores and dissects 43 of her (and in many cases the world's ) favorite poems. If you have even a small interest in genuine poetry. Buy, read, enjoy It!




Sexual Personae is a ruthless, menacing and brilliant dissection of the best of English literature. Its a huge 'tome' (736 pages) but if you have an interest in the darker and sexual side of (almost all of ) English literature buy it!

"In the beginning their was nature. The background from which and against which our ideas of God were formed, nature remains the supreme moral problem. We cannot hope to understand sex and gender until we clarify our ideas towards nature. Sex is a subset to nature. Sex is the natural in man.......








Simply a fun book looking at why some women like 'bad boys.'



Michael
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THE Ross Jeffies Speed Seduction Interview

A Conversation with Ross Jeffries, Speed Seduction Guru and NLP Trainer Michael Beale conducted September 2007

You can listen to a recording of this conversation from Ross.mp3 (but allow 1 minute for connection) or Beale's NLP podcast on iTunes.

Michael: Firstly, I'd like to say that I found some of your stuff very useful regarding attracting women but also, I think you've made some new distinctions around NLP which I think other people haven't done. So I personally found your stuff exceptionally useful.

Ross: Thank you. That's very flattering. I appreciate that.

Michael: The first thing I would like to say though is that sometimes I get a bit shocked by your advertising copy.

Ross: My advertising copy was largely influenced by one person -- my copywriting and marketing guru Gary Halbert. Gary Halbert once said "When it comes to writing, people don't have time to understand your pathetic subtleties" and I never forgot that!

Michael: Presumably up to now, it's worked for you.

Ross: Yes.

Michael: OK. Going back, how did actually get involved in SS and how did you actually find out the first patterns?

Ross: That's funny because I was just writing a post about this on my blog. My greatest success came from my greatest failure.

I was a comedy writer. Not every one knows this that I was a comedy writer in a former career. And that dream died a horrible death when I wrote one of the worst movies ever made. And when I saw how bad it was, I quite literally had a snapping moment in that theatre and I began to stumble around for something else to do.

The first NLP books I read were just incomprehensible. I believe the first one was Structured Magic. Then I stumbled a couple of months later on to Frogs and Princes and it completely blew me away. I spent a couple of years wrestling to understand it, not literally wrestling, but wrestling with NLP to understand it.

And I began to see that I could apply this to my own shyness but I also I could learn to communicate with women in a way that made them much more attractive to me.

Michael: What do you think are the real deep down benefits people get from doing this?
Is it about Speed Seduction or is it more than that?

Ross: Well, first and foremost, I think it teaches men to think about human emotion and human subjective process in a much different way. You've got to remember that most people that come to my work are not familiar with NLP or indeed any kind of personal change technology or communication technology at all.

And so the first time they begin to look at people as more than just random responses running around, they begin to see that the emotions they want to experience and the emotions they want others to experience with them, is a result of an internal process. So first and foremost, I think the benefit is that you begin to look at people and begin to understand that they have a subjective world that you don't necessarily share, and you being to begin to understand that world. And to understand your own subjective world, so you feel less at the mercy of what society uses as nomilisation - chemistry, love. You begin to see that these are not things, but they are processes that can be understood.

And to some large degree you can gain mastery no matter what your previous experience has been. That's the overall really beautiful benefit. And of course knowing how to use your language and how to get women talking in a way that creates attraction, virtually at will, is a pretty nice power to have. Wouldn't you say?

Michael: Absolutely. Absolutely. Well in a funny sort of way I find your stuff poetic, may be a strange description!

Ross: Well it is kind of poetic, isn't it?

Michael: Are there any warnings you give to people about SS and any advice you'd give to someone who, after taking a course, is setting out to put some of what you are talking about into operation?

Ross: I do tell people that it's their obligation that anyone under your influence is under your protection. I do tell guys that you want to leave people better off than when you found them. Only people are somewhat chaotic and there is no way to guarantee that. And that also what you put out in some way eventually reflected back to you. And that is the warning I give.

And look, any time you deal with human emotion, you're dealing with very potentially powerful forces. Whether you are an effective writer, an effective speaker or seducer,
You're dealing with human emotion and it's very powerful.

But I also believe Michael, let me very blunt, I also believe that technology is morally neutral. There is no ethical or moral quality to technology and that's what this is, so you can use it to harm or you can use it to benefit.

And that’s true, by the way, with all persuasive technologies and certainly true about NLP. People have used NLP destructively and they have also used it very constructively. Any many people have done both, which is the most confusing thing. I won't name any names.

Michael: What do you think the need is, if that's the right word, of SS is in the year 2007? You have been dealing with this for some time. Do you think society is catching up? Or do you think there is great desire or need for this sort of thing?

Ross: I think, speed seduction is always, in some way, going to be on the outside even though it's been popularized in books like "The Game," the best selling book by Neil Strauss. I see some of it in some TV shows, etcetera, etcetera. It's always going to be less than mainstream because it's challenging some fundamental ideas about the way that men and women work. The idea that it's chemistry, that it's something that just happens. It's also a big challenge to the dating game.

A large part of my influence in creating the whole Ross Jeffries persona and part of the idea behind Speed Seduction came from a mathematician by the name of Edward Thorpe. Thorpe wrote a book called, Beat the Dealer.

He was the first person to actually figure out the mathematics of Black Jack. He explained a betting strategy that was so powerful that actually Vegas -- the casinos -- had to change the rules or they would lose their advantage. So I kind of view the speed seduction as a beat the system kind of thing.

This always appealed to me as a kid -- ways to beat the system. It's a way for guys to beat the dating game. Because for many men, for most men, unless you are at the very pinnacle of power, and good lucks, and money and wealth, the dating game is a form of gambling.

You're spinning that roulette wheel hoping that the numbers are going to turn out 69 69 69. You're really betting, you're gambling. The whole lingo around dating if you will, "maybe I'll get lucky." Well "lucky" -- if you were taking a plane from England to the US and you asked the pilot, "How are you going to make sure you are going to get to America?" and he said really, seriously said, "I don't know, maybe we'll get lucky," you'd be wise to get off that plane. Part of speed seduction is really a way to stack the deck back in your favor. Beat the house. So does that make sense?

Michael: It makes absolute sense.

Ross: The house - traditional media, traditional dating -- is always going to be against speed seduction and those entities that make money on traditional dating -- movies, entertainment, restaurants -- are not going to like speed seduction, so it's never going to be mainstream, ever.

Michael: OK. How has your own training changed over the years? What are you doing differently?

Ross: A huge part of what I am doing now is not NLP but rather a reflection of my studies of ritual magic, but even more important is vipassana meditation. I have been deeply, profoundly influenced by the work of my vipassana teacher, Shinzen Young. You should check out his website, Shinzen.org.

The meditation practice is quite profound, far more radically transforming than I think NLP has even been for me. Actually, the work I'm doing with Shinzen is having a greater influence on me than Erickson or Bandler. He is really quite remarkable. So I am teaching people a lot about how to detangle emotion, how to separate emotions from each other, and then separate emotions from the stories that feed the emotions -- the emotions feed the stories and keep us trapped in a loop. It's quite profound.

Also, a lot of what I am teaching now is how to be attractive to women using four different attraction vibes. It's true I still teach a lot about language because I'm in love with language, but the energetic vibe, the attitudes you take are like the conductive medium through which your language is either going to pass, or not pass, or pass clean or pass with a lot of noise. So I am teaching about energetic and emotional control of yourself.

And then there's always the language there too and a lot of the language in Speed Seduction is about asking questions, elicitation questions, if you will to get the women talking, and you are actually using her responses…

Michael: You said some of the stuff you are looking at is better than NLP?

Ross: I didn't say better, with all due respect, Michael, I said more radical, going right down to the roots. If you want to talk about subjective experience, there is subjective experience that is largely unconscious and to become conscious of those things requires a deep mediation.

Michael: How do you think, or do you think, that Speed Seduction can be applied to business? Is there relevance there?

Ross: I am actually working on finishing a product on how to put hypnotic language into your copywriting. But I see it relevant in many ways, First of all, state control, rapport is profoundly powerful, and learning to use language that presupposes your outcome is really, really powerful.

So if you said to an interviewer, "as we are sitting here talking today, I know you have to evaluate who's the right person for you and I'm not sure what that ever that process is you use, I just want to let you know as we are speaking, if you really, truly want to know something about me, I am happy to tell you. So that the future passing with that person already having hired you, looking back on this moment and feeling good about it.

Michael: Moving on from that, what do you have coming up in the future?

Ross: Well, there's a project that I am working on coming up, that I really can't discuss, with someone else that is big in the seduction community. It will be announced October first. I am under a non-disclosure agreement but it's going to be gigantic and it's really going to spread the word. But I will be in London on September 7, 8 and 9 doing a magic
and psychic influence seminar, and then I will be in London September 13, 14 and 15 doing a speed seduction seminar.

Those are my only European appearances for 2007.
If you want to find out more about it, please go to: www.speedseduction.biz Don't go to any other sites. There is a mirror site that is not me.

I also want to say one more thing. As much as I want to promote my own business
and my own work, again, I have to give massive credit to the work of Shizen Young. As you know, I have been involved in NLP since 1987 and I have met all the big names and I have met many teachers. And Shinzen is far and away the most intelligent person I have ever met and the greatest teacher I have ever met. He has done for meditation what Milton Erickson has done for hypnosis. So I urge people to go to his website. http://www.shinzen.org/ His work is profound.

Michael: Is there any last thing you would like to say to anybody reading this?

Ross: I would. Some of you know me and like what I do. Some of you don’t like what I do. Many of you are puzzled by my marketing. What I want to say is -- having choice, and power and variety with women is your birth rate.

It's what you really want no matter how society or feminists or anyone try to shun you or shame you out of that desire. And there is a way to do that without having to bully, beg or buy or booze and that's Speed Seduction. I have helped thousand of guys over the last 15 years, so check out the website, http://www.speedseduction.biz/

And I really want to thank Michael for the opportunity to reach some really intelligent people.

THE END

Michael
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Talking to people you don't know yet!

Talking easily to people you don't know yet is a key skill, whether for networking, selling or attraction. Some people find it easy - others, at least temporarily, can find it a genuine challenge, particularly in in a place where they don't know anybody.

There is a view that men find this much harder than women to approach new people, with the possible explanation that many, many years ago if a man approached a new women he ran the risk of being beaten up, excluded from the tribe, or killed by local alpha males or tribe leader....

There follows a list, partially humorous and partly serious of ideas of how to introduce yourself to people you don't know yet. This is about first contact - not what happens next.

However before the list some very general thoughts:

• Genuinely respect peoples space
• Remember what you actually say and do may not make the slightest difference (who you are can have more impact than what you say) (some people will be friendly / unfriendly what ever you say and do) - so don't think to much and just do it!
• Standing side by side, as at a bar, is often the easiest positioning to strike up a conversation
• Noticing something you have in common can help

Obviously some of these are context dependent ie you may choose not to use a business opener in an attraction situation.

Approaches

Limited time approach

"I 've wanted to say hi, I'm Michael, I've heard a lot about you and would like to talk, unfortunately I've arranged to (anything that sounds plausible) and can't talk now. I'll catch you later.

Totally honest approach

Be totally authentic, say exactly what you feel,

" I'm glad to say hi, I don't know anyone here, and you looked friendly, I'm Michael"

"I've wanted to meet you for some time, can you give me 10 minutes?" "I'm Michael.."

Unspecified compliment

When walking past,

"Great colour.."

"Great energy.."

Hesitate for for a split second, brief eye contact, if unfriendly walk on, if you notice a possible connection..

"It's curious...I've always felt a connection with blue.."

"Tell me ....do you do some spiritual discipline like yoga or meditation?...you have a poised energy"

An observation or comment about the current situation then a question

"Good presentation (slight pause) how do you........?

Ask for an opinion?

"I've read this article that claimed that 50% of women actually believe that spells work, I just find it hard to believe, have you a view? .... could it be true?

(Cheeky) Disqualification

"You look really great, it's a bit of shame because I personally prefer blondes / brunnettes /someone younger / someone older (ie what ever the person isn't)"

Mutual friend recommendation

"Sue suggested we ought to talk"

Serendipity

"I had to come up and say hi and introduce myself....It's really strange I just had a dream about someone who was wearing...... "

To be continued........

Michael
PPI Business NLP
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Get Lucky!!

While this is not a seduction blog as such, Richard Wiseman's book 'The Luck Factor' explains how you can improve your luck. The advice is very similar to some seduction advice...........

Michael
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“Luck was not a magical ability or a gift from the gods. Instead it was a state of mind: a way of thinking and behaving. People are not born lucky and unlucky, but create much of their own good and bad luck through their thoughts feelings and actions”……….Richard Wiseman in ‘The Luck Factor’




The Luck Factor

Principals and Sub principals of Luck


Maximise your chance opportunities

Lucky people build a strong network of Luck (ie know lots of people)

Lucky people have a relaxed attitude to life

Lucky people are open to new experiences in life


Listen to your lucky hunches

Lucky people listen to their gut feelings and hunches

Lucky people take steps to boost their intuition


Expect good fortune

Lucky people expect their good luck to continue in the future

Lucky people attempt to achieve their goals – even if their chance of success seems slim

Lucky people expect their interactions with others to be lucky and successful


Turn your bad luck into good

Lucky people see the positive side of their bad luck

Lucky people are convinced that any ill fortune in their life will, in the long run, work out for the best

Lucky people do not dwell on their ill fortune

Lucky people take constructive steps to prevent more bad luck in the future

Quiz (for interest - your score gives you a benchmark)

Rate each 1-5

1 I sometimes chat to strangers when queuing in a supermarket or bank

2 I do not have a tendency to worry and feel anxious about life

3 I am open to new experiences, such as trying new types of food and drink

4 I often listen to my gut feelings and hunches

5 I have tried some techniques to boost my intuition such as meditation or just going to a quiet place

6 I nearly always expect god things to happen to e in the future

7 I tend to try to get what I want from life, even if the chances of success seem slim

8 I expect most of the people I meet to be pleasant, friendly and helpful

9 I tend to look at the bright side whatever happens to me

10 I believe that even negative events will work out well for me in the long run

11 I don’t tend to dwell on the things that haven’t worked out well for me in the past

12 I try and learn from the mistakes that I have made in the past

Seduction evening in Cambridge - June 12th

Yes, I've been invited back - these evenings are real fun if you can make it!

June 12th (Tuesday): Michael Beale Further Seduction, the NLP way,

All meetings start at 7:00pm for a 7:15pm start by the speaker. We run to around 9:00pm. Click here for location or membership details

"Following on from the highly interesting and well attended session on seduction last year, Michael provides a follow up session. You don't have to have come to the first session to find this interesting and useful.

Michael has been studying and experimenting with NLP based techniques to help both women and men seduce their partners. Following on from his session on the language of influence, this session looks a a specific application, that has wider applications as well...."

All meetings start at 7:00pm for a 7:15pm start by the speaker. We run to around 9:00pm. Click here for location or membership details

http://www.cambsnlp.co.uk/forthcoming_events.htm

Phil Jones (Excitant Ltd) - Group organiser

Top Posts - NLP, attraction and seduction

Our top NLP attraction and seduction posts?

Last night in Santa Fe waiting for the flight back I was curious as to the most popular posts viewed over the last 3 days, they are:

Shamanic soul gazing
Review of Venusion Arts
Derren Brown Knocks NLP - Gently
Have you played the cube game?
The Game by Neil Strauss
David DeAngelo

Listening to the Zombies, Starship and Hazel O'Connor, who? Never mind I'll be back in the UK tomorrow!

Michael
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The heart of attraction and seduction

I'm currently reviewing both David DeAngelo's body language DVD's and Ross Jeffries Frame control DVD's - As together they are well over 20 hours of content I'm not rushing it! - The Ross Jeffries DVD set is from a 1999 seminar and David DeAngelo is in the audience...The DeAngelo DVD's are (fairly) new.

Both in their own way are very good...

Hower in the middle of this rather mammoth session I started wondering what were the key messages that were coming out. And my conclusion is that there is a delightful paradox between to key themes:

The first is around men being comfortable at being slightly macho and mildly mischevious doing what ever needs to be done to be successful (in what ever way success means to them). A sort of I'm who I am - take me or leave me. A genuine honesty. You can tag along - but I'll still want to discover what's special about you.

A sort of life discipline which leads to success in the 'outer' world.

The second is around connection. Exploring how people connect to each other and to their own inner selves. How you conect to your flow and peak states, how to connect to be safe enough to totally surrender to your feelings and deepest desires. Being able to connect to your darker side without it overpowering you.

A sort of poetic discipline which leads to success in the 'inner' world.

I haven't got the words right yet but there's an interesting theme developing.......

Michael
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