NLP Seduction and Attraction

Speed Seduction in London

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Thu, 15 May 2008 13:55:00 +0000

Ross Jeffries in London 2008, May 30 - 31 & June 1 Speed Seduction®

Ross Jeffries is back in London

Novotel London West
1 Shortlands
Hammersmith
London W6 8DR
United Kingdom

Seminar booking and details

Secrets of Core Self-Control And Permanent, Mega Attractiveness-how to use your Energy, Intent, Awareness and Beliefs to create an unshakeable and permanent attractiveness DESPITE your physical appearances or environmental circumstances, that magnetizes women to you and does HALF the seducing....BEFORE YOU EVEN OPEN YOUR MOUTH.

* Advanced Signal Recognition Technology: How to use 2 SIMPLE questions to have a woman literally HANDING you her "seduction-road map" within the first 10 minutes of conversation, presenting you the most leverageable, manageable and easily amplified feelings, and responses and information you could ever wish for.

* How To Turn The Hottest Woman Into YOUR "Seduction Supplicant"-the ratification, meta-stating and "More Please" principles. Combine these 3 key principles WITH the responses you get from the Signal Recognition questions, and you will not only have her steaming as you turn up the seduction heat, you will have her LITERALLY and with NO exaggeration asking for more.

live female demofrom London SS 2005 seminar

* Secrets of Participation Illusion-Have you ever worried that a woman might feel overwhelmed, manipulated, or just react badly to your seduction moves? Using this amazing principle, you'll be able to be as blatant, up-front, and totally balls-out and never have to worry about being "caught". Even though you will be leading and guiding every step of the way, she will PERCEIVE she is an active co-participant the entire time, so their is NO chance of resistance, buyer's remorse, or last minute balking.

* Secrets of Hyper-Seduction "Constructs"-How To Create A Lust Window For Her World Through Which She Sees YOU As The Sexiest, Hottest, Fuck In Town! Here is how to take find her deepest feelings, super-charge them..and have her look at you THROUGH them, so she sees you as the most desirable, hottest, pussy-pounding guy in town!

* Secrets of Neuro-Energetic Restructuring™ For Dramatic Personal Power And Self-Change. This part of the seminar is about YOU. You'll watch as I take folks in front of the room and wipe out LIFE LONG fears/complexes in MINUTES using my latest breakthroughs in energetic restructing/transformation and change.

* How To Meet Women Easily, ANYWHERE-Here are the secrets of the Gold Walk Up Diamond, guaranteeing you’ll easily meet women anytime, anywhere and NEVER worry about what to say!

* A REAL "Jedi Mind Trick" combining vague language, energy control and projected mental imagery to LITERALLY throw sexual thoughts into her head! (Could you use this for business and other persuasive applications? YOU BET YOUR SWEET ANACONDA'S UNCLE!)

* Secrets of Structured Seduction Intent: How To Create Mini "Seduction Milestones" So You Stay Right On Track, Know Exactly How Close You Are, And What Work Still Remains To Be Done. You'll NEVER feel lost or without direction again once you use this secret to stay on track with your seductions like a heat-seeking missile headed RIGHT UP HER TAIL PIPE!(ok..I went a little far with that metaphor..so SUE me!)

*Structured -Kiss Closing/Physical Close Secrets: Is she ready? Is she really READY READY? Here's how to test throughout so you don't over-work yourself OR her, including some very naughty turn ons that do NOT include lip-kissing, that will slip right past her guard, get her hot and bothered and ready to jump your Levi-snake like a hungry cat pouncing a bird! Plus an extra BONUS section on using erotic massage to get her!

New Ross Jeffries podcast to appear shortly on this site.........

10 fatal mistakes men make with women

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 19:11:00 +0000

10 Fatal mistakes men make with women!

While these are basically sales material from Ross Jeffries and David DeAngelo I think there is a strong element of truth in both of them.

10 Fatal mistakes men make with women (FREE e-report)
10 Mistakes men make with women (Link to blog article)Feel free to comment!!

Or comment on our NLP Experts Forum

Michael
01908 506563

Richard La Ruina (Aka Gambler) podcast transcript

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 08:58:00 +0000

Discussion between NLP trainer Michael Beale and Seduction trainer Richard La Ruina. January 2008.

(Please allow 2 minutes for the MP3 file to download if you want to listen to the discussion)

http://www.nlp-expert.co.uk/seduction/richard_l.mp3

Michael : I'm really pleased that we have Richard with us this afternoon, who's written 'The Natural Art of Seduction' and runs live training sessions in London .

Richard : Thank you for inviting me.

Michael : Can you kick off by giving our listeners a bit of an introduction to yourself, a little bit about your background and what you do at the moment?

Richard : Sure, my name is Richard La Ruina and I'm currently a fulltime trainer, I train men in how to be better with women, and we do this in a different way to life coaches and other people, we actually train guys in practical, usable techniques.

We demonstrate for them on women and we actually take them out and hone their skills until they're able to do the things that they come to be able to learn - for example getting dates, getting numbers, being more attractive, we'll give them a guide to fashion, we'll work on them in every way.

And as well as doing that I run the business, I've just written a book the book that you're talking about 'The Natural Art of Seduction'. My background is that I was actually very bad with women myself, and I had to learn all of this stuff from scratch. I was someone that was bad socially, I was painfully shy, I was an introvert, and I was kind of stuck in a rut - I didn't have the ability to make friends, and I didn't have the ability to socialise, and of course I didn't have the ability to meet women, get them attracted to me, get dates, to be interesting on dates, and all these things that are very important in having a happy love life.

Michael : And how did you actually get into the seduction business? You obviously went through some transformation.

Richard : I think a lot of guys have heard of Ross Jefferies, and I did actually see his materials a while back, he does NLP for seduction basically - and I was studying NLP, the old Bandler and Grinder books and those sorts of things, but I didn't actually take it seriously, that wasn't the turning point for me.

The turning point for me when I met an American seduction-guru by chance in Leister Square, and he recommended some books and websites, and that started my journey. At first it was just six months of just staying in my house and reading books and watching videos and listening to audio, and after that it was applying that in the real world in London.

Michael : Moving on from that, in your book you mention three characters, Mr Sociable, Mr Comfort and Mr Seducer, can you just talk a little bit about them and particularly the sequence that they could be used in?

Richard : Sure - the basic idea is based on the type of customer I get and just the problems that I normally encounter when I'm teaching someone. These are normally guys that are interesting, they're nice guys that would make a good boyfriend, and they're unable to demonstrate that to a girl in the first few minutes - they start the conversation in a boring way, they ask lots of boring questions, and they're very low energy - and it makes them very hard to get started, to get the good first impression.

So the idea is, that they're good when they're in a one-on-one situation, when they're comfortable. And that's actually later on in an interaction with a stranger, that's maybe half an hour in the middle of it, so what they need to do is they need to develop these extrovert skills, these qualities of the sociable person, and this comes in the first character which is this fun, sociable guy.

His job is to be more interesting than what they are doing currently. So if they're talking to someone that's bored by a tube station waiting for someone, it's going to be quite easy to be more interesting than that. However, if you're talking to some girls that have been drinking, they're in a big group, they're in a loud environment, it's going to be tougher.

So the idea is to give them a toolkit so that they can adjust how interesting they are, how high their energy levels are, so that they have the ability to start a conversation and get to the point where people are engaged with them and do that consistently in all different environments. So that's the job of the fun, sociable guy.

The second character is Mr Comfort, and his job is to connect, to find reasons to see that person again, to get over this surface level banter that we have with our hair dresser, and with our aunt that we see every six months - and get down to really what makes that person tick, their motivation, their character traits, their emotions, these things.

The third character is The Seducer, because I found a lot of men were having the problem of making friends with a woman that they really wanted as a girlfriend, and it was happening because they were missing that point where they needed to escalate things and needed to put in some sexual tension, and to go for the kiss, so they also need to learn the characteristics of someone who is very seductive.

And have the ability to inject sexual tension into a situation, so that a woman that's sitting there thinking 'this guys interesting' starts thinking, 'actually I'd like to kiss this guy.' 'Is he single?' 'Could he maybe be my boyfriend?'.So the three characters are a way of applying a structure to a woman that you've just met, with the aim of progressing through the stages of being two strangers, of being in a conversation, and then eventually taking things to the point where you could see them as a romantic partner, and go for the kiss. And this kind of thing.

Michael : And is the sequence important?

Richard : The sequence is always the same in 95% of cases. The only cases where it wouldn't be the same are where you already know the person or maybe when you're in a very noisy nightclub.

Michael : And how would it be different if you knew the person? and how it be different if you were in a noisy nightclub?

Richard : If you already know a person, you don't generally have to worry about the first two stages, you're already in a situation where they won't reject you if you start talking to them, and they know something about you so there's not too much work to be done in terms of building trust and comfort - there might even be quite a bit of connection.

Generally the only elements that would be missing are them seeing you as a potential mate, and making them feel attracted to you. Kind of bridging that gap between friend and boyfriend.

In the nightclub it's different because you can't do so much verbally, so you can't really have this in-depth chat, and you can be a lot more sexual, so you might find that you could meet a girl and very quickly be kissing her, and then you could go off and have a chat afterwards, and fill in the blanks in the getting-to-know-her part.

Michael : I appreciate that I'm asking you for a huge generalisation because every body's different, but what generally are the sorts of characteristics that make men attractive to women?

Richard : It's not that much of a generalisation, I think there are character types that are almost universally attractive. Women always say 'confidence' and the worst advice to men is to 'just be confident' because you really don't have to do that, but if you think about it - what makes up confidence? I think that it's a sense of comfort with your environment, and with conversation, so if a guy approaches a woman and is sweating and nervous and uncomfortable, it's going to be hard for her to relax and it's going to be hard for her to find him attractive.

If he's completely comfortable in that environment, completely comfortable talking to strangers, completely comfortable talking to her, that's one attractive quality that comes with confidence.

So are things like certainty, in what you say and a strong reality, so someone that meet a girl, and she says 'oh I like sushi, do you like it?' and the guy goes '...yeah, yeah I do...' he doesn't, he's just saying - he wants to agree with her, he's saying 'me too'.

Someone who seeks rapport when it's not really there, someone that would bend and change, and shift his viewpoint, because he wants her to approve of him - someone who is unsure about themself so needs to get this approval off of other people, to get this connection with other people, is not very attractive.

A man that has a sense of purpose in life, has something that he's doing, other than wanting her - so he's into his business, he's very into his person development, whatever it might be, if there's something that's a passion - it's very attractive to meet someone that has passions and interests and doesn't just give all of that up once they meet someone that they become romantically involved in.

I think that women want someone who is slightly unattainable. They never 100% have them. And the guy is obviously attractive to other women. And she's not there whenever she wants him.

So he does do other things, he does go to classes. And in the early stages of a relationship he's not available for dates every day of the week, he's not calling her every day, he's not sending her flowers every Tuesday. There's a bit of unpredictability and unattainableness, because I think men generally say 'you're an attractive women, I'm here, I want you here anytime, just let me know' and women are the ones that are slightly hard to pin down, that are busy doing things, that don't give up their activities and interests to go on a date, but a man will dump all his trends, all his plans, if an attractive woman wants to go on a date with him.

So you can look at these principles as pretty much universal, and they come from a wider umbrella of confidence and how does a confident, successful man behave? And the useful thing is that you can apply them, almost as techniques while you build the confidence.

Michael : So you're saying actually, playing with this stuff or exploring this stuff, is actually a means in itself of developing those traits.

Richard : Of course yeah. Because if you know the correct body language traits, for example, you will be in the club and you will look more attractive. Because you'll have the right body language you'll get better reactions - you getting those good reactions will make you feel better - you knowing that you don't look uncomfortable or unconfident anymore will make you feel better.

When you have some, even silly chat up lines, and you go and use them in bars and in the streets, that's going to give you confidence because you get not-so bad response. So all along the process, as long as you're seeing improvement and learning things, and applying it, you should naturally build your confidence.

I think I've changed from someone who was scared of everything, scared of standing up in class, scared of meeting friends of friends - I'd blush, I'd shake, and I'd just avoid any sort of conversation. Now I embrace it, I'm happy to go on live TV, I'm happy to speak in front of five hundred people. Nothing really phases me, and that's happened gradually, just getting success, just getting the technique, trying it, and getting the results, and there was a snowball effect.

Michael : Now what you're doing follows on from The Game and Mystery, and other people - what do you think you're doing that's different? Is is the same as they've been doing, or have you added your own thing to it?

Richard : It's only the same in the very broad sense that it's seduction. And it's teaching guys how to be better with women.

I'd say that the main thing that distinguishes us is that we're taking a wider approach - we don't want the demand to just be more attractive in just those five minutes, we don't want to give into the lies and the tricks that work for a few hours, we see that as a road to unhappiness.

We want to teach the natural skills, the ones that he can use at work, with friends, to just become generally more sociable, more popular and become a better person, rather than fake it with routines and gimmicks and magic tricks.We thinks they're very shallow - we think that there's a much better way to do things, and that if you keep your approach flexible, and you adjust it based on the woman that you're talking to - rather than treating all women the same, and in a lot of cases misleading them, or tricking them for the short-term game.

Michael : A question that I find curious - what do you think it is in simple terms that is the difference between a man seducing a woman and a woman seducing a man?

Richard : Well, the big difference that men and women have is that the man is the one that has to approach, he has to ask to spend time with the woman, to be able to get her number, to be able to go on a date, he has to make the move for the kiss - he basically has to lead and ask questions all the way through the interaction - and the woman's job is simply to let it happen or to block it.

Michael : If you were going to teach a woman to attract a man, would you be teaching them similar things or would you be teaching her different things?

Richard : I would teach them very different things, I would maybe teach them on body language, a fashion and style and the types of things that would get men come up and talk to them more.

However I would assume that if they went and stood in a bar they would have guys come up and talk to them because that's the general situation that women are in, and I think that they're job once men come up and talk to them is quite limited because the guy's already decided that he finds her attractive sexually, if he's come to chat them up.

So their job in that situation is to decided whether that man is any good or not.

So he's going to be presenting his best self, it might be true, it might not be. So she needs a way to separate the wheat from the chaff when approached by all these guys.

A lot of women make the mistake of approaching the wrong man over and over again, and one of the reasons its so hard to tell the difference between the man with the fake smile and all the great things, and the guy that's just making it up.

The other thing is, when they've found the guy that they want, how do they keep him? That's an issue for women as well, so they have this girl that they really like, but the man has gone from seeing her as this challenge, this beauty, that he wants to get into a relationship with, and now she' s become an ordinary woman, and now she's that and eyes go roaming and he might go elsewhere.

Michael : Before we come to the end of this conversation, and before I ask you if there's anything that you'd like to plug , or give your contact details - is there anything else that you'd like to say in addition, or in summary about seduction that you think is important that maybe we haven't covered?

Richard : It's a massive area, it's always hard when I have to cut things down.

One take away that I'd give is no matter your situation at the moment, whatever your level, whatever mistakes you've made, whatever bad things have happened to you, or even good things - you can always be better, this is now an area rich knowledge, lots of resources, and a few experts that can help you along the way, so if you're willing to dedicate the time and the effort, you can become very, very good, and these skills translate themselves very well outside the area of seduction.

I'm very good in meetings or job interviews, whatever the situation that involves social interaction, so there's wide, far-reaching benefits, so there's definitely something you can handle.

Michael : Is there anything you'd like to plug, and could you leave us your contact details?

Richard : Sure thing. The easiest way to check out the kind of stuff I teach is to check out the book, 'The Natural Art of Seduction' which is in Amazon and in bookshops everywhere, the other thing you should do is check out my website which is www.puatraining.com which has free video, audio, lots of free stuff and also a way for you to get in touch with me.

Michael : Excellent, thank you very much Richard.

Richard : Thank you.

Richard La Ruina (Aka Gambler) podcast released

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Fri, 18 Jan 2008 23:17:00 +0000

NLP, Seduction and attraction podcast

Richard La Ruina (aka Gambler) had nothing – no friends, no women, no social skills. That was in March 2005. Now he has so many hot female friends that he could fill a nightclub with them, he knows guys that are super cool and amazing fun to hang out with, he has made it to the upper echelons of the London scene, breezing in for free in all the top venues...

Listen to the podcast discussion between NLP trainer Michael Beale and Richard La Ruina, January 2008, please allow up to 2 minutes for the MP3 file to download.

http://www.nlp-expert.co.uk/seduction/richard_l.mp3

Richard La Ruina's The Natural Art of Seduction book is a sort of development from 'The Game' and 'Mystery Method' and builds on sussessful formula and content of both books. Most of the stories in the book take place in the UK. Recommended.

Michael
01908 506563
PPI Business NLP

Attraction and seduction books

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Fri, 21 Sep 2007 08:21:00 +0000

Selection of my favorite attraction and seduction books:

For men and mainly about women,

The Game is a sort of biography of the key players in the 'Seduction Industry'. I found it equally sad, honest, useful and extrememly interesting. One on my sons made the comment "It's as much about male bonding as seduction." Hilarious glossary of terms at the end.

Mystery is one of the main 'players' in the Game above. The 'Mystery Method' summarises his suggested approaches. One of his predaicates is that men are naturally attracted to women with high 'replication' value and women are attracted to men with a high 'survivor' value. Well worth a read. Recommended.

Ross Jeffries is often considered the original 'speed seducer' and is also featured in the 'The Game'. I like Ross' stuff although this book is not up to his DVD's How to get the women..

Richard La Ruina's The Natural Art of Seduction is a sort of development from 'The Game' and 'Mystery Method' and builds on sussessful formula and content of both books. Most of the stories in the book take place in the UK. Recommended.

'The Cube' is simply a fun, short imagination game which can capture the imagination...

'Sperm Wars' has been described as the 'most entertaining' science book of its year. Quoting the back cover "Evolution has programmed men to conquor and monopololise women while women, without knowing they are doing it seek the best genetic input available..."

"Fullfilment isn't a matter of a better position, a better body, or a better partner - it's about unlocking inhibitions and finding one's unique keys to pleasure".

Ordinary Women, Extraordinary Sex is a study of the charachteristics of women who enjoy hightened pleasure during sex.

Its alledged that men read and watch pornography while women are attracted to reading romance novels. A huge number of them infact (25% of all books sold?). Why are all the hero's mean, moody and magnificant? And bad in some way.......

(Although this ties in with Mystery's idea that women are naturally attracted to men with high 'suirvival' skills)

The book explores and explodes some myths about romance novels.

The 'Red Queen' is about the how's and why's of the evolutionary struggle between men and women and has recommendations from Richard Dawkins and the Wall Street Journal.

Strong stuff.

Has the male 'human mind' evolved like the 'peacocks tail' and become attractive to women? 'The Mating Mind' explores some human behaviour and advocates that some of our behaviour is actually about displaying our attractiveness to mates.....

Break, Blow, Burn - Camille Paglia explores and dissects 43 of her (and in many cases the world's ) favorite poems. If you have even a small interest in genuine poetry. Buy, read, enjoy It!

Sexual Personae is a ruthless, menacing and brilliant dissection of the best of English literature. Its a huge 'tome' (736 pages) but if you have an interest in the darker and sexual side of (almost all of ) English literature buy it!

"In the beginning their was nature. The background from which and against which our ideas of God were formed, nature remains the supreme moral problem. We cannot hope to understand sex and gender until we clarify our ideas towards nature. Sex is a subset to nature. Sex is the natural in man.......

Simply a fun book looking at why some women like 'bad boys.'

Michael
PPI Business NLP
Business NLP training provider of choice

THE Ross Jeffies Speed Seduction Interview

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Fri, 07 Sep 2007 19:39:00 +0000

A Conversation with Ross Jeffries, Speed Seduction Guru and NLP Trainer Michael Beale conducted September 2007

You can listen to a recording of this conversation from Ross.mp3 (but allow 1 minute for connection) or Beale's NLP podcast on iTunes.

Michael: Firstly, I'd like to say that I found some of your stuff very useful regarding attracting women but also, I think you've made some new distinctions around NLP which I think other people haven't done. So I personally found your stuff exceptionally useful.

Ross: Thank you. That's very flattering. I appreciate that.

Michael: The first thing I would like to say though is that sometimes I get a bit shocked by your advertising copy.

Ross: My advertising copy was largely influenced by one person -- my copywriting and marketing guru Gary Halbert. Gary Halbert once said "When it comes to writing, people don't have time to understand your pathetic subtleties" and I never forgot that!

Michael: Presumably up to now, it's worked for you.

Ross: Yes.

Michael: OK. Going back, how did actually get involved in SS and how did you actually find out the first patterns?

Ross: That's funny because I was just writing a post about this on my blog. My greatest success came from my greatest failure.

I was a comedy writer. Not every one knows this that I was a comedy writer in a former career. And that dream died a horrible death when I wrote one of the worst movies ever made. And when I saw how bad it was, I quite literally had a snapping moment in that theatre and I began to stumble around for something else to do.

The first NLP books I read were just incomprehensible. I believe the first one was Structured Magic. Then I stumbled a couple of months later on to Frogs and Princes and it completely blew me away. I spent a couple of years wrestling to understand it, not literally wrestling, but wrestling with NLP to understand it.

And I began to see that I could apply this to my own shyness but I also I could learn to communicate with women in a way that made them much more attractive to me.

Michael: What do you think are the real deep down benefits people get from doing this?
Is it about Speed Seduction or is it more than that?

Ross: Well, first and foremost, I think it teaches men to think about human emotion and human subjective process in a much different way. You've got to remember that most people that come to my work are not familiar with NLP or indeed any kind of personal change technology or communication technology at all.

And so the first time they begin to look at people as more than just random responses running around, they begin to see that the emotions they want to experience and the emotions they want others to experience with them, is a result of an internal process. So first and foremost, I think the benefit is that you begin to look at people and begin to understand that they have a subjective world that you don't necessarily share, and you being to begin to understand that world. And to understand your own subjective world, so you feel less at the mercy of what society uses as nomilisation - chemistry, love. You begin to see that these are not things, but they are processes that can be understood.

And to some large degree you can gain mastery no matter what your previous experience has been. That's the overall really beautiful benefit. And of course knowing how to use your language and how to get women talking in a way that creates attraction, virtually at will, is a pretty nice power to have. Wouldn't you say?

Michael: Absolutely. Absolutely. Well in a funny sort of way I find your stuff poetic, may be a strange description!

Ross: Well it is kind of poetic, isn't it?

Michael: Are there any warnings you give to people about SS and any advice you'd give to someone who, after taking a course, is setting out to put some of what you are talking about into operation?

Ross: I do tell people that it's their obligation that anyone under your influence is under your protection. I do tell guys that you want to leave people better off than when you found them. Only people are somewhat chaotic and there is no way to guarantee that. And that also what you put out in some way eventually reflected back to you. And that is the warning I give.

And look, any time you deal with human emotion, you're dealing with very potentially powerful forces. Whether you are an effective writer, an effective speaker or seducer,
You're dealing with human emotion and it's very powerful.

But I also believe Michael, let me very blunt, I also believe that technology is morally neutral. There is no ethical or moral quality to technology and that's what this is, so you can use it to harm or you can use it to benefit.

And that’s true, by the way, with all persuasive technologies and certainly true about NLP. People have used NLP destructively and they have also used it very constructively. Any many people have done both, which is the most confusing thing. I won't name any names.

Michael: What do you think the need is, if that's the right word, of SS is in the year 2007? You have been dealing with this for some time. Do you think society is catching up? Or do you think there is great desire or need for this sort of thing?

Ross: I think, speed seduction is always, in some way, going to be on the outside even though it's been popularized in books like "The Game," the best selling book by Neil Strauss. I see some of it in some TV shows, etcetera, etcetera. It's always going to be less than mainstream because it's challenging some fundamental ideas about the way that men and women work. The idea that it's chemistry, that it's something that just happens. It's also a big challenge to the dating game.

A large part of my influence in creating the whole Ross Jeffries persona and part of the idea behind Speed Seduction came from a mathematician by the name of Edward Thorpe. Thorpe wrote a book called, Beat the Dealer.

He was the first person to actually figure out the mathematics of Black Jack. He explained a betting strategy that was so powerful that actually Vegas -- the casinos -- had to change the rules or they would lose their advantage. So I kind of view the speed seduction as a beat the system kind of thing.

This always appealed to me as a kid -- ways to beat the system. It's a way for guys to beat the dating game. Because for many men, for most men, unless you are at the very pinnacle of power, and good lucks, and money and wealth, the dating game is a form of gambling.

You're spinning that roulette wheel hoping that the numbers are going to turn out 69 69 69. You're really betting, you're gambling. The whole lingo around dating if you will, "maybe I'll get lucky." Well "lucky" -- if you were taking a plane from England to the US and you asked the pilot, "How are you going to make sure you are going to get to America?" and he said really, seriously said, "I don't know, maybe we'll get lucky," you'd be wise to get off that plane. Part of speed seduction is really a way to stack the deck back in your favor. Beat the house. So does that make sense?

Michael: It makes absolute sense.

Ross: The house - traditional media, traditional dating -- is always going to be against speed seduction and those entities that make money on traditional dating -- movies, entertainment, restaurants -- are not going to like speed seduction, so it's never going to be mainstream, ever.

Michael: OK. How has your own training changed over the years? What are you doing differently?

Ross: A huge part of what I am doing now is not NLP but rather a reflection of my studies of ritual magic, but even more important is vipassana meditation. I have been deeply, profoundly influenced by the work of my vipassana teacher, Shinzen Young. You should check out his website, Shinzen.org.

The meditation practice is quite profound, far more radically transforming than I think NLP has even been for me. Actually, the work I'm doing with Shinzen is having a greater influence on me than Erickson or Bandler. He is really quite remarkable. So I am teaching people a lot about how to detangle emotion, how to separate emotions from each other, and then separate emotions from the stories that feed the emotions -- the emotions feed the stories and keep us trapped in a loop. It's quite profound.

Also, a lot of what I am teaching now is how to be attractive to women using four different attraction vibes. It's true I still teach a lot about language because I'm in love with language, but the energetic vibe, the attitudes you take are like the conductive medium through which your language is either going to pass, or not pass, or pass clean or pass with a lot of noise. So I am teaching about energetic and emotional control of yourself.

And then there's always the language there too and a lot of the language in Speed Seduction is about asking questions, elicitation questions, if you will to get the women talking, and you are actually using her responses…

Michael: You said some of the stuff you are looking at is better than NLP?

Ross: I didn't say better, with all due respect, Michael, I said more radical, going right down to the roots. If you want to talk about subjective experience, there is subjective experience that is largely unconscious and to become conscious of those things requires a deep mediation.

Michael: How do you think, or do you think, that Speed Seduction can be applied to business? Is there relevance there?

Ross: I am actually working on finishing a product on how to put hypnotic language into your copywriting. But I see it relevant in many ways, First of all, state control, rapport is profoundly powerful, and learning to use language that presupposes your outcome is really, really powerful.

So if you said to an interviewer, "as we are sitting here talking today, I know you have to evaluate who's the right person for you and I'm not sure what that ever that process is you use, I just want to let you know as we are speaking, if you really, truly want to know something about me, I am happy to tell you. So that the future passing with that person already having hired you, looking back on this moment and feeling good about it.

Michael: Moving on from that, what do you have coming up in the future?

Ross: Well, there's a project that I am working on coming up, that I really can't discuss, with someone else that is big in the seduction community. It will be announced October first. I am under a non-disclosure agreement but it's going to be gigantic and it's really going to spread the word. But I will be in London on September 7, 8 and 9 doing a magic
and psychic influence seminar, and then I will be in London September 13, 14 and 15 doing a speed seduction seminar.

Those are my only European appearances for 2007.
If you want to find out more about it, please go to: www.speedseduction.biz Don't go to any other sites. There is a mirror site that is not me.

I also want to say one more thing. As much as I want to promote my own business
and my own work, again, I have to give massive credit to the work of Shizen Young. As you know, I have been involved in NLP since 1987 and I have met all the big names and I have met many teachers. And Shinzen is far and away the most intelligent person I have ever met and the greatest teacher I have ever met. He has done for meditation what Milton Erickson has done for hypnosis. So I urge people to go to his website. http://www.shinzen.org/ His work is profound.

Michael: Is there any last thing you would like to say to anybody reading this?

Ross: I would. Some of you know me and like what I do. Some of you don’t like what I do. Many of you are puzzled by my marketing. What I want to say is -- having choice, and power and variety with women is your birth rate.

It's what you really want no matter how society or feminists or anyone try to shun you or shame you out of that desire. And there is a way to do that without having to bully, beg or buy or booze and that's Speed Seduction. I have helped thousand of guys over the last 15 years, so check out the website, http://www.speedseduction.biz/

And I really want to thank Michael for the opportunity to reach some really intelligent people.

THE END

Michael
PPI Business NLP
01908 506563
The NLP Business Training provider of choice

Speed Seduction® London Seminar, September 14, 15, 16 2007

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Wed, 22 Aug 2007 08:03:00 +0000

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Michael
PPI Business NLP
The Business Training NLP provider of choice
01908 506563

Talking to people you don't know yet!

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 18:12:00 +0000

Talking easily to people you don't know yet is a key skill, whether for networking, selling or attraction. Some people find it easy - others, at least temporarily, can find it a genuine challenge, particularly in in a place where they don't know anybody.

There is a view that men find this much harder than women to approach new people, with the possible explanation that many, many years ago if a man approached a new women he ran the risk of being beaten up, excluded from the tribe, or killed by local alpha males or tribe leader....

There follows a list, partially humorous and partly serious of ideas of how to introduce yourself to people you don't know yet. This is about first contact - not what happens next.

However before the list some very general thoughts:

Genuinely respect peoples space
Remember what you actually say and do may not make the slightest difference (who you are can have more impact than what you say) (some people will be friendly / unfriendly what ever you say and do) - so don't think to much and just do it!
Standing side by side, as at a bar, is often the easiest positioning to strike up a conversation
Noticing something you have in common can help

Obviously some of these are context dependent ie you may choose not to use a business opener in an attraction situation.

Approaches

Limited time approach

"I 've wanted to say hi, I'm Michael, I've heard a lot about you and would like to talk, unfortunately I've arranged to (anything that sounds plausible) and can't talk now. I'll catch you later.

Totally honest approach

Be totally authentic, say exactly what you feel,

" I'm glad to say hi, I don't know anyone here, and you looked friendly, I'm Michael"

"I've wanted to meet you for some time, can you give me 10 minutes?" "I'm Michael.."

Unspecified compliment

When walking past,

"Great colour.."

"Great energy.."

Hesitate for for a split second, brief eye contact, if unfriendly walk on, if you notice a possible connection..

"It's curious...I've always felt a connection with blue.."

"Tell me ....do you do some spiritual discipline like yoga or meditation?...you have a poised energy"

An observation or comment about the current situation then a question

"Good presentation (slight pause) how do you........?

Ask for an opinion?

"I've read this article that claimed that 50% of women actually believe that spells work, I just find it hard to believe, have you a view? .... could it be true?

(Cheeky) Disqualification

"You look really great, it's a bit of shame because I personally prefer blondes / brunnettes /someone younger / someone older (ie what ever the person isn't)"

Mutual friend recommendation

"Sue suggested we ought to talk"

Serendipity

"I had to come up and say hi and introduce myself....It's really strange I just had a dream about someone who was wearing...... "

To be continued........

Michael
PPI Business NLP
www.ppimk.com
01908 506563

Get Lucky!!

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Tue, 12 Jun 2007 12:24:00 +0000

While this is not a seduction blog as such, Richard Wiseman's book 'The Luck Factor' explains how you can improve your luck. The advice is very similar to some seduction advice...........

Michael
PPI Business NLP
01908 506563

“Luck was not a magical ability or a gift from the gods. Instead it was a state of mind: a way of thinking and behaving. People are not born lucky and unlucky, but create much of their own good and bad luck through their thoughts feelings and actions”……….Richard Wiseman in ‘The Luck Factor’

The Luck Factor

Principals and Sub principals of Luck

Maximise your chance opportunities

Lucky people build a strong network of Luck (ie know lots of people)

Lucky people have a relaxed attitude to life

Lucky people are open to new experiences in life

Listen to your lucky hunches

Lucky people listen to their gut feelings and hunches

Lucky people take steps to boost their intuition

Expect good fortune

Lucky people expect their good luck to continue in the future

Lucky people attempt to achieve their goals – even if their chance of success seems slim

Lucky people expect their interactions with others to be lucky and successful

Turn your bad luck into good

Lucky people see the positive side of their bad luck

Lucky people are convinced that any ill fortune in their life will, in the long run, work out for the best

Lucky people do not dwell on their ill fortune

Lucky people take constructive steps to prevent more bad luck in the future

Quiz (for interest - your score gives you a benchmark)

Rate each 1-5

1 I sometimes chat to strangers when queuing in a supermarket or bank

2 I do not have a tendency to worry and feel anxious about life

3 I am open to new experiences, such as trying new types of food and drink

4 I often listen to my gut feelings and hunches

5 I have tried some techniques to boost my intuition such as meditation or just going to a quiet place

6 I nearly always expect god things to happen to e in the future

7 I tend to try to get what I want from life, even if the chances of success seem slim

8 I expect most of the people I meet to be pleasant, friendly and helpful

9 I tend to look at the bright side whatever happens to me

10 I believe that even negative events will work out well for me in the long run

11 I don’t tend to dwell on the things that haven’t worked out well for me in the past

12 I try and learn from the mistakes that I have made in the past

The 10 mistakes men make with women

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Fri, 01 Jun 2007 05:40:00 +0000

I'm still reviewing David DeAngelo's 'Body Language DVD's. I the meantime I'm reprinting one of his newsletters - which makes a good read.

Michael
01908 506563
PPI Business NLP Ltd

“The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU ProbablyMake With Women—And What To Do About It...”

Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women—And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes...

-By David DeAngelo, Author Of “Double Your Dating”

MISTAKE #1: BeingToo Much Of A “Nice Guy”

Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys?
Of course you have.

Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.

What's going on here?

It's actually very simple...
Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

And guess what?

Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.

I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.

Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

MISTAKE #2: Trying To“Convince Her To Like You"

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just notinterested?

Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.

Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!

Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".

Think about it.

If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?

But we all do it.

When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.

MISTAKE #3: Looking To HerFor Approval Or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".

Another HORRIBLE idea.

Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here.

You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.

But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.

You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.

Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...

MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts

How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?
If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.

Well guess what?

It's only NATURAL when this happens...
That's right, I said NATURAL.

When you do these things, you send a clear message:

"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection". Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

MISTAKE #5: Sharing“How You Feel” Too Early InThe Relationship With Her

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.

Attractive women are rare.

And they get a LOT of attention from men.

Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another.

An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.

And guess what?

Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.

That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.

This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.

Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.

There's a much better way...

MISTAKE #6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women

Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.

You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.

When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?

Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?

Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.

Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?

Think about it.

Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.

And ANY guy can learn how...

MISTAKE #7: Thinking That ItTakes Money And Looks

One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.

And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.

But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.

There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...

And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.
YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.

Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

MISTAKE #8: Giving AwayAll Of Your Power To Women

Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.
Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.
Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.

Another bad idea...

Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!

MISTAKE #9: Not KnowingEXACTLY What To Do In EachType Of Situation With Women

Now I'm going to blow your mind...

A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.

Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.

I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.

And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!

And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...

Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.

If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.

And you KNOW it.

It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP

This is the biggest mistake of all.

This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.

I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.
Hey, I've been there myself.

Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women...
About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.

It frustrated the hell out of me.

One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.

Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.
I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.

It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up alone.

I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.

I've written a book on the topic, and I've done seminars on both coasts of the United States... and taught tens of thousands of men all around the world.

I Now Have A FREE, Three-Times-A-Week Email Newsletter...

...But the REALLY GREAT news is that I now publish a free email newsletter three times a week that teaches any guy how to increase his success with women DRAMATICALLY.
And I'd like to invite you to sign up.

It's free, there's no obligation, I'll never share your email address with anyone, and you can easily remove yourself anytime with no hassles (and no, I'll never pull any of these tricks where I send you a bunch of unwanted junk email when you try to remove yourself).

Of course, it even get's better than that...

In addition to my free email newsletter, I also have a killer downloadable eBook that you can download right now and be reading in literally MINUTES from right now.

It's JAM PACKED with dozens and dozens of specific strategies for overcoming fear, approaching women, getting phone numbers and email address from women quickly, great inexpensive or even free date ideas, and how to take things to a "physical" level smoothly and easily.

To sign up for my free three-times-a-week newsletter AND download your copy of this online eBook, just go here:

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Oh, And One More Thing...
In this day and age of "instant gratification", I realize that this might just sound like another late-night info-mercial promising to make you rich by next week.

Well, that's not the case.

I've spent a lot of time, effort, and energy writing this eBook. I wanted to design and create a program that ANY guy could easily understand and start using IMMEDIATELY to meet and date more women... without having to lie, do dishonest things, or be "manipulative".

I now believe that ANY man can be more successful with women and dating, and I get emails every day with success stories from guys who are using this program to meet and date wonderful women.

I know, I know... an ebook that can teach a regular guy how to be more successful in the dating world? No way.

Well believe me, this program will DRAMATICALLY increase your success with women... I absolutely guarantee it 100%.

If you'd like to take your success with women and dating to the next level, and have the kind of success that you've always wanted, then go sign up for my free newsletter, get all the details, and check out some great free samples of the eBook located here:

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And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David DeAngelo
P.S. Do some friends a favor, and FORWARD this article to their email addresses. It might be the biggest gift you ever give them.

Copyright 2004 David DeAngelo Communications Inc., All Rights Reserved. David DeAngelo and Double Your Dating are trademarks of David DeAngelo Communications Inc.
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Seduction evening in Cambridge - June 12th

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Fri, 11 May 2007 15:13:00 +0000

Yes, I've been invited back - these evenings are real fun if you can make it!

June 12th (Tuesday): Michael Beale Further Seduction, the NLP way,

All meetings start at 7:00pm for a 7:15pm start by the speaker. We run to around 9:00pm. Click here for location or membership details

"Following on from the highly interesting and well attended session on seduction last year, Michael provides a follow up session. You don't have to have come to the first session to find this interesting and useful.

Michael has been studying and experimenting with NLP based techniques to help both women and men seduce their partners. Following on from his session on the language of influence, this session looks a a specific application, that has wider applications as well...."

All meetings start at 7:00pm for a 7:15pm start by the speaker. We run to around 9:00pm. Click here for location or membership details

http://www.cambsnlp.co.uk/forthcoming_events.htm

Phil Jones (Excitant Ltd) - Group organiser

Ross Jeffries - Free daily tips

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Sat, 05 May 2007 12:03:00 +0000

If you're prepared to let them have your email address you'll get a daily free seduction tip.

Some of them are quite good!

http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?Clk=1957671

Michael
01908 506563
NLP Training - PPI Business NLP

Review of Ross Jeffries Frame Control and Sexual Themes DVD set

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Sun, 01 Apr 2007 16:50:00 +0000

I've just revisited Ross Jeffries "Advanced Speed Seduction (R), Frame control and sexual themes, Los Angeles SS seminar 1999" DVD's.

While I would NOT recommend these to someone who is totally new to the material they are one of my favorite DVD sets for more serious students learning about seduction*, NLP and hypnotic language. They contain over 16 hours material in 8 DVD's and 2 CD's.

The language is direct, and yet provides many keys to connecting with people on a more intuitive and exploratory level. Almost a way of developing a poetic approach to communication.
While the DVD's are full of a wide range of material I'm picking out two very short examples. What's interesting is that they provide the basis for developing many new patterns and approaches.

Ross gives creates a description of love as somewhere "where you can step into a special place with that special person and explore whats important to you both, knowing you're being totally honest and going to keep the other person safe."

The DVD's give an approach to develop this sort of language and communication.

They also explore a simple approach which I think is one of the most useful and powerful approaches in NLP. That of asking people to contrast and compare two similar concepts (that are important to them). - It encourages the client to go into a deep state and to access some of their deepest resources.

In this context you could ask the difference between any two of these words: want, need, craving, desire, dream, passion, goal or fantasy.

For example you could ask the difference between a want and a fantasy. And you could develop the difference with regard to concepts such as:

Time
Motivation
Physical sensations
Emotions
Connection
Anticipation
Where it starts and finishes
Empowerment

Which leads to all sorts of interesting exploration......

You can find further information on Ross' site. Look for the section 'not for beginners' in the sites left hand margin.

And remember (as Mark Cunningham - one of Ross' co-presenters and an excellent hypnotist continues to say..) people with a life are more interesting than those that don't - and go out and do something new every week .. you can't fake who you are....but you can become who you want to be....

VISIT ROSS JEFFRIES SEDUCTION SITE

Listen to a conversation between Ross, Style and Mystery below:

www.stylelife.com/academy/private/Style&RossJeffries/

Michael
01908 506563
PPI Business NLP

The heart of attraction and seduction

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Sun, 04 Mar 2007 10:04:00 +0000

I'm currently reviewing both David DeAngelo's body language DVD's and Ross Jeffries Frame control DVD's - As together they are well over 20 hours of content I'm not rushing it! - The Ross Jeffries DVD set is from a 1999 seminar and David DeAngelo is in the audience...The DeAngelo DVD's are (fairly) new.

Both in their own way are very good...

Hower in the middle of this rather mammoth session I started wondering what were the key messages that were coming out. And my conclusion is that there is a delightful paradox between to key themes:

The first is around men being comfortable at being slightly macho and mildly mischevious doing what ever needs to be done to be successful (in what ever way success means to them). A sort of I'm who I am - take me or leave me. A genuine honesty. You can tag along - but I'll still want to discover what's special about you.

A sort of life discipline which leads to success in the 'outer' world.

The second is around connection. Exploring how people connect to each other and to their own inner selves. How you conect to your flow and peak states, how to connect to be safe enough to totally surrender to your feelings and deepest desires. Being able to connect to your darker side without it overpowering you.

A sort of poetic discipline which leads to success in the 'inner' world.

I haven't got the words right yet but there's an interesting theme developing.......

Michael
01908 506563

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Review of the Mystery's Venusian Arts Handbook

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Wed, 20 Dec 2006 22:06:00 +0000

A colleague of mine (who is a sales director of an international company) who I share a drink with every couple of months, asked me write down a 4 page summary of this seduction stuff and spend a day with him and see if it has any relevence to sales.

As it happened I'd just been reading Mystery's Venusian Arts Handbook and listened to his 5 DVD set - see http://www.themysterymethod.com/

And it gave me a bit of a problem in that it's such a good summary of approaches to attraction and seduction that it's hard not to quote it. So this is a mix of Mystery's content - if you're interested in more detail from this review then buy Mystery's book and DVD's - together with what I think are the key points.

Key Lessons from seduction

“In a way a man cannot seduce a women but he can put himself in a position where if he demonstrates leadership and the right characteristics – she will be automatically drawn to seduce him”

Basic assumptions

The human race has, at least up to now, been amazingly successful at survival and replication – however this is ‘hard – wired’ into our bodies and happens despite 10’s of 1000’s of years of evolution. In fact while social conditioning has changed how we think it has not necessarily changed how our bodies react.

Our bodies and minds are likely to have a very different idea of what we really want and desire….which can lead to some interesting social and personal conflicts and choices!

Our bodies are hard wired for the species to survive and replicate…which may or may not be in the interests a particular individual. Both men and women will tend to post rationalise their decisions and actions because some of our real drivers are not totally acceptable to either the individual or society………..

Much of what follows is about ‘what works’ because it’s wired in at a very deep level; it’s not about what ‘ought to work.’

The key differences between men and women

Women have a much higher investment in the result of sex than men; they will naturally continually test men both that they have are providing the right genes to produce the best offspring and that they will not desert her (although they usually reserve the right to leave him.)

When ‘testing’ women may not be looking for logical answers – they are looking for emotional and frame strength.

In addition women are usually much more socially adroit than men and look for social validation of their choices.

It’s therefore in a man’s interest to know a wide range of attractive women because this provides both social validation and choice.

Men will generally have ‘approach anxiety’ when making initial contact (which often makes no sense to women) where women may hesitate just before sex (which often makes no sense and can be mildly or less mildly frustrating to men.)

There is a view that women are significantly more different than men and a man needs to re-learn every woman. Every woman has a slightly different key and a man won’t fully appreciate her unless he has the skill and time to find it.

Characteristics that women naturally find attractive in men

Social proof (found attractive by other women and respected by leading men – hence the importance of ‘wings*’ and ‘pivots*’)
Follow their own passion and internally referenced
Healthy
Comfort (some people would describe this as confidence)
Humorous and smile easily
Well groomed
Occasionally a cheeky chappy
Occasionally unpredictable
Able to form an emotional connection easily

NB could be summed up by as success criteria for the 21st Century?!

Characteristics that women find naturally unattractive in men

Neediness
Focused on her as a purely sexual ‘goal’

A seduction process (adapted from the mystery method)**

Following this method is likely to lead both to success and avoid ‘buyers’ remorse

Stage A Demonstrate no interest but high value

The question left in her mind is he’s cool – so why doesn’t he like me?

Stage B Comfort, connection and investment

By the end of this stage she feel she’s made a major investment in getting to know him and is genuinely feels comfortable and connected with him. If he moves away she wants to follow. And by this stage the man knows enough that he can decide to continue or not.

Stage C Mutual seduction

The more that both parties take an active part to create the right environment the more successful it will be.

* A wing and pivot are male and female colleagues that will give you social proof (whether deserved or not)
**Mysteries ‘The Venusian Arts Handbook’ contains 200+ pages on how to do this!

See http://www.themysterymethod.com/ if you’re interested in this material eBook and DVD set are brilliant

In the actual ‘mystery method’ each subdivides each stage into three sub stages

A1 The approach
A2 Female to male interest
A3 Male to female interest

C1 Conversation
C2 Connection
C3 Intimacy

S1 Foreplay
S2 Last minute resistance
S3 Sex

The sequence is importance, except maybe for a one night stand, starting with S will end up with the man being blown out or getting ‘buyers remorse’, starting with C will end up as being ‘friends’ or misinterpreted as S (why is he being nice to me?)

Jumping from A to S can lead to buyers remource.

Important points

The concept of negs in A1– a snub without an insult
Use of time constraints – I’d like to talk but I’ve arranged to meet my friend
The process is likely to involve at least three physical locations – the logistics needs be worked out
In the end the women must be able to feel ‘it just happened’ and the whole thing was totally unplanned. Therefore
The man must initially focus on the process and not the women and in fact run the process on many women – and be prepared to ‘walk away’ particularly in the early stages.
The man needs to run ‘kinaesthetic’ escalation throughout the process
The 3 second rule – you have three seconds to approach someone if you don’t want to appear a wimp
The 7 hour rule – women usually need 7- 10 hours of ‘genuine comfort’ with a man before they’re ready for sex

Some important skills and capabilities

Taking responsibility
Understanding and using social proof
Breaking and making rapport
Process over outcome
Using ‘canned material'
Not caring!
Calibration
Kino escalation
Story telling
Enjoyment and respect (Otherwise why bother?)

Michael

PPI Business NLP

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3 Recommended books about men and women

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Mon, 27 Nov 2006 14:47:00 +0000

Three recommended books about men and women are 'Dangerous men and adventurous women' edited by Jaynes Ann Krentz, 'Ordinary women extraordinary sex' by Dr Sandra Scantling and Sue Browder and 'Sperm wars' by Robin Baker.

The books individually approach the subject from three different perspectives: romantic fiction, good sex from a female perspective, and biology.

Neither consider the subject from a moral perspective - what they give is a indication of some of the underlying divers.

Dangerous men and adventurous women is a collection of essays by best selling romance novelists about their craft. Depending on where you get your information between 25-50% of all books sold are romantic fiction.

The key aspects of a successful romantic novel seem to be:

They have a happy ending - resolving often complex and paradoxical issues
The hero is some version of a "mean, moody, magnificent creature with a curling lip and a mocking eye and an arrogant air of self assurance" - (well until he meets the heroine)
The heroine always conquers the hero - not vice versa
The writer's ability to lead the imagination and emotions and create a fantasy that resonates with the reader is more important than plot and or grammar.

Ordinary women extraordinary sex is about women who experience great sex. It's about unlocking inhibitions and finding one own unique keys to pleasure. It isn't about a better position, a better body or a better partner - in-fact the importance of the man's role is not as important as some might think. (other than she needs to be able to trust him.)

It is about focus and mindset:

Learning to quiet the mind
Staying connected to what you love - letting the moment lead you
Trusting your partner and yourself
Finding your own true voice among the "shoulds"
Suspending certainty and cultivating a beginner's mind
Enhancing your enjoyment of senses, images and fantasies

The thrust of Sperm Wars is that evolution has programmed men to conquer and monopolise women while women, without even knowing they are doing it, seek the best genetic input on offer from available sexual partners.

Men's drive is to produce the largest number of healthy children while women drive is to be very selective and choose the best genes AND the best male to protect any offspring - ideally but not necessarily the same male.

The interesting idea is that, regardless of what we think, these concepts are hardwired into or bodies at a physical level and while we always have the option of saying no - there is often a disconnect between what we think we're doing and how our bodies are acting. And it's often our bodies that drive our behaviour.

Some ideas proposed:

Less than 1% of a man's sperm can fertilise anything, the rest is there to hinder other men's sperm
Human females naturally hide their fertility (even from themselves) - giving her more control over when and by whom she conceives
From a biological point of view what's right for one partner is often not the best for the other
There is more differences between different women than different men. Men should not assume that one women is like another.

Michael

PPI Business NLP

Review of Dave Riker's Speed seduction language and conversation course

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Sun, 19 Nov 2006 19:57:00 +0000

Review of Dave Riker's 11 cd and workbook - Speed seduction, language and conversation course

(Please note I've no connection with Dave - if you're interested you can find out more from www.daveriker.com and www.straightforward.inc )

In brief this an excellent course if you're interested in improving your conversation, influencing, hypnosis, poetic and / or seduction skills.

My only caution is that while you'll pick up useful tips in a casual listen (which in itself will take 10 hours or so) you'll get a lot more benefit if you do all the exercises and listen several times - which could add up to an investment of several weeks.

On the other hand its one of the best collections of: speaking tips, language tools, language structures and techniques, conversation management, conversation topics and patterns that I've come across brought together in one place.

I know that this stuff works - however I can imagine anyone who hasn't had any exposure to this sort of material give up in disbelief before getting value from it. So if you're thinking of buying it only do so after making the commitment that you're going to use it!

Below is very short extract of some of the material covered:

Examples and uses of 'trance words' - which tend to immediately lead the listener into another state: eg Suddenly, find yourself, imagine, suppose, convince yourself etc

Examples of 'weasel phrases' ( There must be a better description!) - which are phrases that lead the imagination and work well before an embedded command: eg Have you ever, what's it like when you, as you etc

Examples of linking (An anchoring technique) - which enables
you to link good feelings and emotions to yourself: eg Now with me, in me, these, this belief, these feelings etc. A number of anchoring techniques are included.

Examples of listing - listing can be used to pace experience, give reasons to support your views. It can be useful to 'hide' more adventurous options within a list and to put your prefer ed suggestion at the end.

Examples of using 'more the more' (Which I really like) - which enables you to more easily lead someone through a series of steps and amplify the result.

Examples of using parts. One example of which is the hallucination that if someone is not behaving in a way that you think is useful - assume that the person has a part that supports your point of view - and gain support of that part. (With my NLP hat on please remember to integrate when you've finished!)

Examples of universal wants - which enables you to guess something the person may want: eg confidence, security, control etc

Examples of how to gently challenge - challenges are often far more important than compliments: eg you seem, you seem as if, are you able to, you may, maybe you can etc. lots of other examples of challenges are included.

Examples of seduction orientated topics of conversation eg surrendering to feelings, getting excited, trusting your judgement, indulgence, good decisions.

If you're interested in this sort of material you'll really like the course.

Any questions give me a call,

Michael
PPI Business NLP
01908 506563

See also:
Key attraction and seduction posts,

Create Her - Be clear about what you want!

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Sun, 19 Nov 2006 18:03:00 +0000

Lance Mock sent me a copy of his eBook 'Create Her' which is about being clear about what you want in a partner. Well worth a read!

http://www.ppimk.com/downloads/Createher.pdf

Michael
01908 506563

How do you compliment a women - How as a women do you like to be complimented?

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Thu, 12 Oct 2006 22:42:00 +0000

I ran a 'seduction - the NLP way' seminar at the Cambridge NLP group recently, which as it happened was both well received and taken with the right mischievous spirit (and huge sprinkling of salt) that works well for this sort of thing.

However we had an intriguing debate about how women like to be complimented. So much so that one of the participants - who had made a great contribution throughout the evening - felt inspired to clarify her thoughts on paper and said I could use them as I thought appropriate.

So I'm curious, what are your thoughts on complementing women or as a women on being complemented?

See ecademy blog on the above question

RE Cambs NLP Group event 12 September 2006.

At the end of last night's enjoyable session on seduction techniques, some comments made to me by men in the audience made me realise that men really struggle with the nuances of giving a compliment to a woman.

Who can blame them - it is a minefield! We could have usefully spent another few hours debating the issue.

So, Caroline's thoughts on the giving and receiving of compliments.

I'm inevitably generalising from the particular here but I think I'm on fairly safe ground in saying that women find it hard, on the whole, to accept compliments. How many times do you hear a woman saying "Oh, this old thing…" when complimented on something she is wearing.

It's not our fault. We can't help it. I remember being asked to speak to a male colleague at work who was upsetting his female staff by complimenting them on their appearance. He really couldn't understand why they were so offended.

I know from personal experience that although I have schooled myself to accept compliments gracefully, it does require schooling and nothing can prevent the instinctive (but hopefully hidden) recoil from an inappropriate compliment. It is an utterly instinctive reaction.

I have tried to come up with some rules to help people avoid making terminal (as far as seduction goes) mistakes. Compliments are acceptable when they are on a topic that unites the giver and recipient in some sort of relationship. For example, at work it is perfectly acceptable for a man to compliment a female colleague on a piece of work well done.

At home, it is fine for a neighbour to compliment you on something you've done to your house or garden. The big problem area is personal compliments on your appearance, taste or behaviour. I am only really comfortable receiving such compliments from my close friends and family.

With people I know less well it is a bit of a grey area. I may instinctively feel a bit uncomfortable but can control that reaction as long as it is given in a non-threatening way. From anyone else it is pushy, seeming to assume an intimate relationship that does not exist.

A straight personal compliment made by a stranger can be experienced by the recipient as aggressive and offensive. It also demonstrates a lack of understanding and empathy, which is not attractive and not likely to prove a successful seduction technique. The same can occur with a compliment made by an acquaintance in inappropriate relationship context eg a personal compliment made by someone you only know through work.

In this case, it depends really whether you like the person or not, how well you know them and what the hierarchical relationship is. These days it's better to be safe than sorry and restrict the compliments to non-personal issues.

Seduction techniques are essentially techniques for giving a compliment in a way that is non-threatening. A compliment must be freely given and it must be clear that nothing is expected in return. The walking away technique scores well on this one.

The ambiguous compliment given while walking is even less objectionable, even quite welcome!

Humour can help a lot. I think this is a variation of Michael's ambiguity technique. A compliment given in a joshing way is a bit ambiguous. Is it really a compliment or not?

OK, I'll accept it as a compliment but the doubt is enough to make me not react negatively.

In fact, this is a great technique because it not only gets the compliment across but it also sends the message

"I understand that this compliment business is a bit tricky so I'm doing it in a way that you won't object to and that makes it a little joke between us."

Brilliant! This is the NLPers way of giving a compliment, I have noticed. I'm sure some of you have other ideas about this but I hope it helps.

When it comes to women complimenting men, I'm afraid I haven't a clue.

Caroline 12 October 2006

Michael
01908 506563

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NLP Seduction - Girl friend test

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Sat, 30 Sep 2006 16:23:00 +0000

This is fun opening or conversation idea loosely based on one of Juggler's excellent ideas.

I have a simple test to see if any one's got the right qualities to be my girl friend friend. It's based on three questions and a fourth if you get the three right. If you're at all curious I'll ask you.

Do you prefer chocolate or champaign?

Wait for answer.

Do you prefer being kissed on your neck or your toes?

Wait for answer.

Would you prefer a man that helps you feel safe enough to explore your deepest desires or a man that takes you on a roller coaster ride where your not sure what's going to happen next?

Wait for an answer.

Whatever the response. You got two out of three - Good but not quite good enough. Have a go at the fourth question....

Tell me something important about yourself that nobody knows about?.

What ever the response. Not quite there but I like you. (assuming you do!)

You'll be pleasantly surprised at where this might lead...

Any questions give me a call.

Or simply add a comment!

Michael

(01908) 506563
PPI Business NLP Ltd

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How to meet and connect with women by Wayne Elise

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Sun, 27 Aug 2006 14:32:00 +0000

How to meet and connect with women by Wayne Elise (Juggler)

Post modern seduction??

Just finished reading Juggler's ebook which costs about $40 and you can buy here, complete with the promise of a years updates.

I really liked it and fully recommend it.

The following is an extract of the content taken from his website:

"Much of the book is written in the perspective of a pick-up artist as he wanders his way through the world and has interactions with women - in coffee shops, pubs, night clubs, boutiques, and more. You will read transcriptions of his interactions with women, line by line, with interludes to explain the theory behind his words and actions.

The theories in How to Meet and Connect with Women, are the basis of what we teach - all of the secrets that Wayne has worked years to learn and refine and what we call "Post-Modern Seduction."

The Interesting/Interested model of interaction.
Rapport and Vibing: You know, that thing that is 95% of your conversation.
EXACTLY how to approach. Body language. How to ask questions.
The difference between sexual obsession and sexual interest.
Being the Alpha Buddha and giving away your approval.
When its appropriate to discuss sexuality, and when you MUST NOT.
Simple things you need to know to keep a conversation moving.
Statements of Intent: The big secret that shouldn't be
Making presumptions: Have high expectations for everyone you meet.
Finding comfort and presence in silence.
Moving towards intimacy and closing.
Much, much more."

I liked it because it gives (to me anyway) very straightforward practical ideas and conversation examples of how you could choose to behave in typical social situations. Infact there is some very good advice that relates to nearly all social situations.

I also find Wayne's approache to be genuinly respectful both of men and women - without losing any of the strenghth of the approaches.

There are hundred's of quotes that appealed - however I found myself smiling over the following:

"Not only are you sexy, but you're good to talk too"

"I would like you to come back to my place and see my fish"

" I have an intuition that ........you are a good kisser"

"When a women accuses you of being bad ... always agree"

"People only tease the ones they like. Always go withe teasing. Make fun of yourself. Enjoy the attention."

Any questions give me a call.

Or simply add a comment!

Michael

(01908) 506563

PPI Business NLP Ltd

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Shamanic soul gazing

noreply@blogger.com (Michael) — Wed, 12 Jul 2006 16:43:00 +0000

Another way of getting good rapport - and maybe even looking into your partners soul is this simple technique...It's also a way of getting to know someone on a different level.

Ask your partner if they would like to explore a shamanic technique. Basically the idea is to focus on/in each others right eye while you match each others breathing rate breathing.

If you're not used to notice someones breathing rate ask your partner to raise their hand when they breathe in and lower it when they breath out (and you do the same.) This makes it much easier to match breathing.

Do a test for 30 seconds then have a break for a minute and then do it for a couple of minutes. Share with each other what you experienced.

Any questions give me a call.

Or simply add a comment!

Michael
(01908) 506563
PPI Business NLP Ltd

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